These days, women are provided with more opportunities in life than we have ever been in recorded history. And I say “hoorah” to this! We need to continue to push for equality in every aspect of our lives, our culture and the society around us.
But, as a woman, I must say, it’s getting harder and harder to live up to all the hype!
In the media now, we are portrayed as goddesses. We are the warriors, the super heros, the political mastermind, the attorney for the drug cartel. Yet while accomplishing all this, we are also the wife and the mother and the best friend and the cook!
For goodness sakes, the other night on Netflix, I watched a woman lay political waste to a half dozen men, clean up a dead body and it’s surrounding pool of blood, provide foster care for the 6 month old baby of said dead guy, AND lay out a solid breakfast the next morning for her family complete with pancakes, bacon and orange juice!
SERIOUSLY! How can I live up to these kind of expectations?
(I mean that pool of blood alone…I can’t even begin to imagine how many times she had to rinse those towels.)
See here, I am not cooking breakfast the day after I have to clean up a dead guy! I don’t even cook breakfast now!
Yet young, impressionable women are watching these shows, not expecting to ever mop up a dead guy’s pool of blood, but thinking surely they can at least put out a full breakfast for their family every morning.
NO! I mean if that’s your thing, and you love doing it, then yes, by all means….but if you’re a working mom and not a morning person, if you have babies, toddlers or young kids and morning is like a visit to a Victorian insane asylum, then oh my gosh, just getting out of the house each day without losing your mind is all you need to burden yourself to achieve!
We need to be realistic about what is achievable on a day to day basis as a wife, mom, worker, friend and world conquerer.
I think we tend to assume that we need to cram all our awesomeness into a single point in our lives, but the truth is that we only have finite amount of energy and focus in any given day. Our bodies and mind are not physically capable of “doing it all”. And what inevitably happens is that some of the balls drop and we beat ourselves up endlessly about it.
TV portrays a woman accomplishing all of her tasks in a single day and still finding time to clean up the dishes before she goes to bed. But we need to start realizing that, while we are capable and strong, we are also human and limited.
Understand and accept that you cannot achieve it all today, and be at peace with the top few things you prioritize (and make sure these are your priorities, not what is defined by some TV show). You will find yourself with more confidence, more focus and more energy for the present so that you can dream, plan and prep for when there is an opening in your calendar.